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  The laziness of JW parents....

  by stuckinarut2 in

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  it struck me that the society has created a culture of lazy jw parenting.. rather than parents being there to guide and direct and help their children through all stages of life, the gb / society has become the "go-too" for everything.. if the child has an issue, there is a wt article for that.. does the child need help with something else?

  ah, there is a caleb and sophia cartoon for that.. what about that other topic?

  ah, there is a book for that.. so rather than being present parents, the average jw parent simply outsources their parenting to the organization!

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  SummerAngel
  Add to that home schooling equals no education. No school clubs or hobbies to encourage no outtings to help them learn any spare time get knocking doors

  No logical fallacies here.
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  EMDR Therapy Anyone?

  by Brian J in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  two+ months into marital counseling for my wife (pimi) and i (pimo).

  wife after decades of marriage decides for the first time to bring up separation due to, drum-roll please...... absolute endangerment of spiritual life.

  a spouse may constantly try to make it impossible for the mate to pursue true worship or may even try to force that mate to break god’s commands in some way.

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  Sail Away

  Brian J, I'm so sorry your wife is using this flimsy excuse to break up your marriage.

  To answer your question, I tried EMDR for three sessions, and the therapist decided she couldn't help me, because I didn't feel safe in my own body. She recommended another therapy. What would you like to know?

  My question for you is why is the therapist recommending EMDR for you? This therapy is used to work with trauma. You didn't mention that in your post.

  Diane
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  2018 Regional Convention program available on JW.borg

  by sir82 in

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  2. friends

  https://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/convention-program-2018/.

  friday.

  be courageous and very strong”​—joshua 1:7

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  Sail Away

  Let me summarize the whole convention in a single sentence for you:
  If you don't do all the nonsense we command you, you are a COWARD! --paradise seeker

  If you don't do all the nonsense we command you, you are a COWARD, and you're going to die!
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  A Question of Adultery

  by snugglebunny in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  question: if a jw married lady is accused of adultery and a judicial committee is formed to investigate the matter, is the lady's jw husband also invited to attend as the possibly injured party?.

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  Sail Away

  I knew of one case. The husband was not invited to the JC, but the elders insisted the wife call her husband in their presence on the telephone. She refused and was DF'd. She told him that night, so the committee recinded the decision, and she was privately reproved. She told me this herself many years later. She still felt trapped in her marriage to a verbally abusive man.
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  Solicitors Appontment Tomorrow - Advice Appreciated

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  following up on this thread: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5012900121935872/am-overreacting-here?page=3#!#5179106934128640.

  im seeing my solicitor tomorrow to see about getting an order in place making sure any contact my daughter has with my jw family goes through me and not my ex-wife.. explained the situation briefly to the lawyer, she was asking more and more about why should i be concerned if a jw had access to my child.. i mentioned the blood issue, the shunning, the inappropriate pictures of armageddon in books/mags etc.

  do you think i should bring in watchtower literature to show them what i mean?

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  Sail Away

  By all means, document everything! In my experience, professionals have a hard time wrapping their brains around this level of crazy, but once they see it in writing or even in a video, they are better prepared to assist you.

  Wishing you the best,

  Diane
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  Am I Overreacting Here?

  by pale.emperor in

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  let's call him "dave".. dave: hello?.

  dave: we dont have to tell you how she is.

  dave: <her mother> has custody.

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  Sail Away

  pale.emperor, you are so not overreacting. You have the right to know where your daughter is, who she is with and that she is safe at all times. I am thinking of both physical and emotional safety. Take this up with your ex. There need to be boundaries set around efforts to indoctrinate and alienate your daughter. These people are toxic.
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  Smiddy`s Wedding Anniversary Today

  by smiddy3 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi friends one and all i just thought i would let you know it`s our 57th wedding anniversary today .

  and we are setting off this morning for 3 nights in eden nsw i think it has more to offer than the one in genesis.. with a bit { or a lot } of luck we will make our fortune .

  have a good day everybody.

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  Sail Away

  Smiddy, Congrats to you and your wife! Mr. Sail Away and I are coming up on 40 years in May. We are planning a sailing trip, maybe overseas. Enjoy yourselves!
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  In one sentence, can you pinpoint a single event that woke you up?

  by Brian J in

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  2. beliefs

  my turning point: serving on a child abuse judicial case.

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  Similar to Dagney and NVR2L8, I knew the overlapping generation teaching was crap, and I had a moment of clarity at a Tuesday night meeting when I knew I just couldn't hear them say one more time that so many people were going to die at Armageddon (including my adult children); I knew I was done.
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  DF’d or DA???

  by DATA-DOG in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so, i think i’m going to be df’d, but elders are out of town and no decision has been officially reached.

  what would happen if i sent a certified overnight letter and said that i was going to disassociate before they have their meeting??.

  i know the two conditions are similar, but i’m just curious... dd.

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  Sail Away

  Data-dog, it is kind of you to think of your aging parents. A few quick questions:

  Is it still true that the DFd are being "disciplined by Jehovah, and "He loves those he disciplines"? In this case, wouldn't it ease their minds if there was a chance you might respond to that "love"?

  Would they even know whether you DAd or were DF'd?

  Diane
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  What would you say?

  by Freedom rocks in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  if you had 2 minutes with an old witness friend or with a family member to convince them the 'truth' is a lie and the gb isnt being directed by god what would you say to get their attention that might make them question their beliefs?.

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  Sail Away

  I have seen and experienced myself that getting away from indoctrination sessions for a period of time helps tremendously, then you might be able to make some inroads. With doctrine, it is not one size fits all. What is important to one person, may not matter to another at all. It almost always seems to require a real or perceived personal or family injustice to open the door.